Breast cancer survivor and dating
Alaina wrote: So while waiting in the docs office for one of my appointments earlier in the week, one of the "cancer mags" caught my eye.It had an article highlighted in it called "Sex & the Single Survivor."First I had to search my subconscious to remember what "sex" was, and when I remembered, I thought, Now dating sucked big hairy monkey balls BEFORE cancer, I can only imagine that dating will be a beast of a completely different species now that I'm the Bald & Boobless Wonder!*sigh*I read the article with great interest however, and it had this fascinating chart; How to tell the Boys from the Men. I'm really not sure how I'm going to navigate those issues.Some of the points that stood out to me were: You're Dealing with a Boy if:* He treats you like a charity case who should consider herself lucky to have ANY man in her life* He doesn't want to hear any details of your cancer treatment* He won't commit to a relationship, after all, you might get sick again, and he couldn't handle that In the small snippets of time I've even thought about dating post-diagnosis, those three issues rose immediately in my mind to get me to STOP thinking about dating.... All advice is solicited and welcome in that regard.
Exploring these issues on the discussion boards is a wonderful way to see how others have worked their way back into the "dating scene" and found happy, fulfilling relationships.The site also includes links to other cancer-related websites and organizations.Although dating another cancer survivor may not be for everyone, I think it is a great opportunity and resource for survivors and other people affected by cancer to be able to connect with someone who has "been there" and who may have other similar interests as well.“Breast cancer survivors offer a unique understanding of the value of life—and love.”) The women you’re about to meet— Jenny, Kristina, and Nicole—are proof."When I signed up for OKCupid, they asked, What’s the most private thing you’re willing to admit?My answers: Laundry is my favorite chore, and I’m a breast cancer survivor. The first guy I had sex with after cancer was a beautiful, tattooed philosopher. I’m glad they do, though; now I’m using them to find The One. I have bikini shots on my profile because I’m proud of my body: I want to show my “shark bite”—the scar on my belly from the reconstruction—and my ' Frankenboob,' which used to be higher than the other one but has fallen into place.